Karpman’s Drama Triangle is a valuable coaching framework that explains the roles people assume in conflict-driven situations: Victim, Rescuer, and Prosecutor. By recognising and breaking free from these roles, clients can develop healthier, more empowering relationships and take greater control over their lives. This blog explores how Coaching applies Karpman’s model to help clients build awareness and transform unproductive behaviour patterns.

The Three Roles in Karpman’s Drama Triangle

Victim

People in the Victim role often feel powerless or trapped, thinking, “Nothing ever goes my way.” Victims tend to rely on others for solutions and validation, hindering personal growth. In coaching, Victims may struggle to recognise their strengths, which keeps them from seizing opportunities for change.

Rescuer

Rescuers feel compelled to “save” others, taking on their problems with good intentions. This often creates dependency, as the Rescuer unintentionally reinforces the Victim’s need for help. In coaching, Rescuers may be encouraged to examine whether their help truly empowers others or simply provides temporary relief.

Persecutor

This role involves criticism or control, often leading to frustration or defensiveness. Persecutors may feel justified in pointing out flaws, but this behaviour can escalate conflict. In coaching, Persecutors are encouraged to approach issues with empathy, turning their frustration into constructive feedback.

Recognising and Addressing the Triangle’s Impact on Coaching

Karpman’s Triangle can affect relationships, work dynamics, and even self-view. Coaching helps clients recognise when they’re in one of these roles, enabling them to move beyond limiting patterns.

Each role has distinct effects on an individual:

Victim Impact: Coaching often works with clients who feel stuck, and unable to see a way out. This mindset prevents clients from taking proactive steps. Coaches encourage Victims to focus on their strengths and ask, “What can I do?” rather than “Why me?” This shift moves clients from passive reactions to active participation in their own lives.

Rescuer Impact: Rescuers may feel overwhelmed and unappreciated, putting others’ needs first at the cost of their own. Coaching helps Rescuers set healthy boundaries and focus on empowering rather than fixing others. This shift allows Rescuers to support others without sacrificing their well-being.

Persecutor Impact: Clients in the Persecutor role may experience tension in their relationships due to a tendency to criticise. Coaching helps Persecutors reframe their approach, transforming criticism into constructive feedback. This encourages accountability without blame, leading to healthier, more respectful interactions.

Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle: The Coaching Approach

Coaching provides clients with strategies to break free from the Drama Triangle and adopt more empowering roles. Here are some ways coaches help clients move beyond these patterns:

From Victim to Creator

In Coaching, Victims are encouraged to focus on what they can control. By reframing situations, they learn to see themselves as active participants. This shift from Victim to Creator allows clients to develop resilience and take ownership of their lives, turning obstacles into opportunities.

From Rescuer to Coach

For Rescuers, Coaching emphasises guiding rather than rescuing. Coaches encourage Rescuers to empower others by offering support rather than solutions. This approach not only prevents burnout but fosters mutual growth, allowing Rescuers to step into a supportive, coach-like role.

From Persecutor to Challenger

Coaching helps Persecutors channel their critical energy into positive challenges. By focusing on constructive feedback, Persecutors learn to communicate effectively without diminishing others. This transformation fosters collaboration and mutual respect.

Embracing Empowerment Outside the Drama Triangle

Recognising and breaking free from the Drama Triangle enables clients to achieve greater self-awareness, healthier relationships, and a sense of control over their lives. Coaching encourages clients to leave reactive roles behind, fostering deeper, more meaningful connections.

Ultimately, Karpman’s Drama Triangle is more than a model, it’s a path toward self-awareness and empowerment. Coaching provides clients with the insights and tools to exit this cycle, encouraging growth and healthier, more fulfilling connections. Embracing new roles like Creator, Coach, and Challenger transforms how clients see themselves and others, allowing them to lead lives rooted in resilience, respect, and authenticity.

Ready to step out of the Drama Triangle?

Take the first step toward empowering change and authentic connections. Whether you’re ready to move from Victim to Creator, Rescuer to Coach, or Persecutor to Challenger, our coaches at Hello Coach are here to guide you. Break free from unproductive patterns and embrace a life of resilience, growth, and self-awareness. Start your journey today, book a session and discover the transformative impact of life coaching!